You can’t be everything to everyone: Thoughts from isolation 2.0

It’s been a while since I last wrote a blog. I’ve been keeping very busy; I think that helps me cope. Someone asked me the other day how I was coping in isolation. I replied that I was doing well, […]

My Parenting Fail

A couple of weeks ago, my youngest daughter finally lost her first tooth. After years of watching her older brother and sister lose their teeth in return for cash, it had been a long-anticipated moment in her almost 7-year-old life. […]

Why I refuse to buy into the fear of getting fat during Covid 19

“We’re all going to be so fat when we come out of isolation!” “I need a lock on my fridge, I can’t stop snacking, I’m putting on so much weight!” “I’m getting so flabby; I really need to get back […]

“You’ll probably be too fat,” he replied to my 9 year old.

Last night my 9-year-old asked if we could have a private chat. This isn’t an unusual occurrence, we have private chats whenever she needs to get something off her chest, but it’s always about something that is very important to […]

“If I act like myself, I’m afraid people won’t like me!” my daughter cried.

They were the words that would break any mother’s heart. Earlier that day, I had been observing my 9 year old daughter at her party. Surrounded by her friends, she appeared almost to be playing a character. She oozed a […]

Raising Informed Daughters: Knowledge is Power

I don’t know about you, but I feel like diet ads are all over the tv at the moment. There’s a new one around at the moment, it’s the diet that promises it’s not a diet, but a ‘lifestyle’. It’s […]

What if we stopped admiring weight loss?

With the warmer weather approaching, and now with a few hot days under our belt, I’ve noticed a few children at the schools I’ve worked at, as well as older students on their way home from school, wearing jumpers and […]

When you find yourself lost

I don’t think I’ve written a blog for at least 6 months. Somewhere along the way, I started believing that I’d run out of things to say, and perhaps more than that, I stopped believing in myself. When I left […]

A Diet Free Life

Today, May 6th, is International No Diet day, a day that if you’d told me years earlier, I’d be celebrating, would’ve brought with it, raucous laughter. After growing up with a mother who dieted, it seemed only fitting and natural […]

Behind the photo.

So recently I’ve seen myself in photos. It’s so interesting. We all have an image or idea of how we look in our minds, and it can be shocking and confronting to see an image that conflicts with that idea. […]

Words of wisdom for my children

Things I want my children to know and understand as they grow older •You don’t need to change your body; your body is incredible just as it is. Unfortunately, we live in a world that profits of of us not […]

Are you a Perfect Parent?

When it comes to raising children, how highly do you rate yourself? How do you go with consistency? Are you easily swayed from saying no to saying yes? Do your kids know that if they beg and plead and moan […]

How self-aware are you as a parent?

Lately I’ve been immersing myself in parenting books and books about empowering our children to become happy, confident and resilient individuals. During my reading, two things have happened; one is that I’ve noticed how many adults would benefit from thinking […]

My family holidays filled me with fear

**TRIGGER WARNINGS** The idea of a family holiday, fills most people with excitement and anticipation. It’s an opportunity to wind down and enjoy each other’s company away from the often mundane, monotony of our everyday lives. For me, on the […]

21 Tips To Take into the New Year

Things to remember as 2018 draws to a close and we head into the New Year 1. The size of your body doesn’t make you any less or any better than anyone else 2. The size of your body is […]

A journey worth taking

Body Positivity is a journey, not a destination. This was an important thing to realise. Most people think they are bigger than they actually are. My mum for example, always buys her outfits 1-2 sizes larger than she is because […]

‘Wow, I didn’t know you looked that bad!’

I’ve just come back from a shopping trip to Target. Today is the first day of Summer and so I made the decision that I would buy myself some shorts as an apology to my legs for keeping them hidden […]

When the mirror lies

Today I was at the gym, as one of the women I regularly workout with, commented to our trainer, about how she feels like she needs to drop a bit of weight. I looked over at her, this lean, proportionate, […]

Old habits die hard

Yesterday didn’t feel like a great day. I’m coming up to 15 months since I ended my 20 long year battle with bulimia once and for all. I don’t talk about my recovery often, mainly because when I finally arrived […]

“Today was the worst day ever!” my daughter cried.

Yesterday my 7-year-old daughter came home from school, dramatically declaring she’d had the worst day ever. Of course, I wanted to know what had happened, so she began recalling her day in great detail. Her story went on for quite […]

Top 10 Tips on how to improve your daughter’s body image. Number 9 changed my life!

Welcome to the Mirror Movement! If you’re here, there’s a good chance that like me, you’ve struggled with your body image in some way, whether that be through your relationship with food, or a flawed relationship with the mirror. As […]

“I’m fat.” said my 5 year old.

“Why are Emma’s legs skinny and mine fat? I hate my legs.” They’re the words that stopped me in my tracks. My daughter was only 5 and in her first year of school, when she came home deflated, uttering these […]

Honesty has a power that very few people can handle

“Honesty has a power that very few people can handle.” An open letter to my past students…. ** (At the end of last year, I left my teaching job after coming out in May of 2017, about a 20-year eating […]

Do you know yourself as well as you think?

Are you as self-aware as you think you are? I would never have described myself as a perfectionist. I have always been okay with crumbs on the floor, with my clothes being messily stacked in a pile in the corner […]

Practise Makes Perfect

When you feel like an Imposter “Better a cruel truth than a comfortable delusion.”- Edward Abbey Next month will be one year since I officially said ‘never again’ to the eating disorder that ruled my mind and my life, secretly, […]

One Moment, Two Options

The other day I had an incredible day; I also had a challenging one. I’ve been working on something big, something with the potential to create change for young people around body image and the way they see their bodies. […]

It’s time to look fear in the face

What you are afraid to do is a clear indication of the next thing you need to do. -Ralph Waldo Emerson When a chronic dieter is confronted with the idea of living diet free, thoughts of freedom are rarely the […]

A Mother’s Impact

‘You can’t always be strong, but you can always be brave’ Beau Taplin Throughout my 20-year battle with an eating disorder, I had so many times where I knew I couldn’t possibly be the only one. There was nothing extraordinary […]

Smart people do dumb things

What’s your addiction? How does what you’re showing on the outside match with what’s going on on the inside? I’ve always had a positive opinion of myself, not in an up myself kind of way, but more in an I’ve […]

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me, or will they?

Words hurt. Have you suffered from poor body image? What is your earliest memory of feeling self-conscious about your body? Did someone say something to you to make you realise your body wasn’t perfect? I’ve always been highly observant, watching […]

Good parenting, or are we raising children to be spoonfed?

Are we raising children to be spoonfed? Are we accidentally doing our children a disservice in our quest to be good parents? In my last blog on diet culture, (read here: Link), I talked about the changes I have made […]

Are you unknowingly harbouring a criminal?

Are you unknowingly harbouring a criminal? Do you diet? If the answer is yes, then I’m afraid to tell you that you are. Diet culture is a thief, who has been robbing people all over the world of their natural […]

Busting out of a bad relationship

Do you suffer from food guilt? Did you over indulge on chocolate and now need a quick fix to get you back on track? What if I told you that there was a way for you to never diet again? […]

“Mummy you’re not going to be happy,” my daughter said

  Raising children can be hard work, but as informed parents, we can help our children reach a place of self-acceptance, by encouraging a positive self-image in this body conscious world in which we live. A few weeks ago, as […]

Struggling with self-love? Try self-acceptance!

“The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others”– Dr. Sonya Friedman Let’s talk about the seemingly difficult journey towards self-love and self-acceptance. For some of you, the thought of loving your body is as far reached as you […]

When Your Willpower Is Lost

When your willpower is lost How many diets have you been on in your life? How long have you been able to maintain diet momentum? If you’re anything like most women, the answer is too many and not for long […]

Sliding Door Moment

Mid-August of last year, during a sneaky long weekend to Port Douglas, my life changed. I’d recently had an epiphany, one that forced me to reconsider the way I was living my life, one that required a complete overhaul of what I knew and what I thought.

Coming Out

Have you ever kept a secret? Do you still have a secret no one knows about? For 20 years I lived a double life. For 20 years I kept a secret from all of those who knew and loved me. I referred to myself as ‘high-functioning’, someone who didn’t have a problem as serious as others, someone who was able to cope well with life and the things it threw at me.

Detox for 2018

Are you a social media junkie? Do you know the saying ‘you are what you eat’? I’ve been thinking a lot lately about applying that same logic to what we consume as viewers and users of media. My tv habits over the years have been admittedly low quality.